Author Archive: ontheroadtosimplicity

My Own Personal Baggage

One thing that happened to me and my brothers in the last few months is that we all agree that we don’t want to leave our children with so much stuff. It has been a lot of work. We have given up most of our weekends to manage this job and we all walked away …

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Mama’s birthday

Facebook has a way of keeping the past alive. Today, in the midst of my personal grief process, it reminded me of a post from five years ago. It was from my mother. Here’s what she said, “Theresa, Thank you for my beautiful birthday card. You were the first. Trouble is, birthdays just remind one …

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The Dilemma of Family Heirlooms

Honestly, I had already been trying to help my mother “go through stuff” for three years. She did well, letting go of things that were obviously of no use or that someone else could put to better use. I knew the final clean up would be somewhat of a nightmare when the time came. It …

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It’s a Process…

I have come to realize that we let go of our loved ones little by little, day by day, not all at once. Holding on to their things might be a way of holding on to them for just a little longer. I needed to wear that old crocheted sweater a few more times, and …

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Saving and Purging

Many years before she died, my mother gave me the responsibility of saving her writing. I said I would, being a writer myself. I did, mostly. She helped a lot of people with her Ezine articles on “starting over.” She became an expert on navigating the pain and emptiness of divorce and loss of a …

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No Worries, Finally

My mother taught me a lot of things–how to cook, clean, and sew as well as how to be a decent person in this world. Being the only girl, I always knew I had a place in the family. Being the oldest, I always knew I had to be the responsible one. So, I was. …

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Death as the Great Stop Sign

     Attachment to stuff is one thing; attachment to people is something all together different and much more complex. We all have our roles in the family system. My mother was the second eldest of her siblings, the keeper of the important family belongings, as well as the moral thread that was woven generations …

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Attachment: A Small Whisper in the Ear

I’m sure I’ve said this before, but downsizing is a good lesson in attachment. After giving up all his worldly belongings and heading to the forest to seek enlightenment, the Buddha concluded that attachment is the #1 cause of suffering. (Actually, it’s ignorance of attachment that is the cause, but that gets complicated.) Basically, the …

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The road goes on and on…

Wow. Who knew that downsizing could take so long? Six years after starting this journey, we are still navigating a small sea of stuff. But now, we have added another layer of stuff—my mother’s. It’s not terrible, but it could be. Sometimes I wish we could have a devastating hurricane or tornado so it would all …

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Competition: Who needs it?

“Let go of Competition, Expectation and Judgment.” YogaFit mantra This image looks peaceful and natural. but just beneath the surface, there is strong competition for food, water and space. Every gardener knows that plants are capable of invading when left unchecked. The most aggressive become the most prolific. Survival of the fittest is proven here. The …

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